Parents who are divorcing are often concerned about the effect the divorce will have on their children. Parents are concerned primarily with their own problems, but they are also aware that they are the most important in the lives of their children.

Parents may feel devastated or relieved by the divorce, but children are invariably frightened and confused by the threat to their personal safety. Some parents feel so hurt and overwhelmed by the divorce that they aid and comfort to their children. The children can not understand the divorce and parents should explain what is happening, how they affect and what will be their fate.

Children may believe they are the cause of conflict between their parents. Many students try to be responsible for bringing their parents and often sacrifice themselves in the process. The traumatic loss of one or both parents due to divorce can make them vulnerable to physical and mental illnesses.

Parents should be aware of the signs of persistent stress on their children. These signs may include lack of interest in school, friends or even to entertain. Other signs include sleeping too little or too much and being rebellious and argumentative with family.

Children must know that his mom and dad will remain their parents even if the marriage ends and parents do not live together. The protracted dispute over the custody of the children or pressuring children to bring to the part of Dad or Mom can do great damage to children and may increase the damage that divorce makes them.